Why Do Liberals Think Homosexuality Mirrors Heterosexuality?Posted: March 28, 2013
Often my posts revolve around me giving you information, or at least opinion. But this post is more about me asking you rather than telling you something. Im a bit baffled, by the tendency of people to perceive homosexuality as simply a mirror of heterosexuality. IE perceiving homosexuals to be just like heterosexuals, other than the fact that they are same-sex attracted, and perceiving homosexual relationships to have the same characteristics as heterosexual relationships, eg in terms of level of commitment, longevity, monogamy etc. That argument contradicts the facts.
It’s known that homosexuals experience differences in average relationship longevity (Ref. 2, Ref. 3, Ref. 4), monogamy (Ref. 2, Ref. 3, Ref. 4, Ref. 5, https://m.facebook.com/groups/136299309789666?view=permalink&id=1941343805951865) even if married, tendency to “hook up“, and higher rates of sexual addiction. Even the New York Times, CNN and the UKs Independent have reported that gay relationships differ from straight ones. These differences play a part in explaining why their HIV rates etc etc (https://www.cdc.gov/std/syphilis/clinicaladvisoryos2015.htm) are higher. I note here that HIV has been described by authorities as the world’s most deadly infectious disease, and contracted by 1 in 5 sexually active homosexual American men, with half of all black gay men predicted to contract it (ref. 2). It also helps explain why HIV is so often (ref. 2, ref. 3) caught from a long-term/primary partner. And HIV in turn has a variety of huge impacts too.
It’s interesting to see Ricky Martin talk of the non-monogamous tendencies of gay men, as being healthy and liberating, while others point to gay hookup culture as having a negative impact on mental health.
There are differences in other areas also, such as higher rates of mental disorders (ref. 2, ref. 3), eating disorders, lesbian obesity, depression and substance abuse (ref. 2, ref. 3) including tobacco consumption (ref. 2), and steroid use compared to heterosexuals (I previously included intimate partner violence, Ref. 2, in this list, but I now note that reports on this vary considerably, perhaps geographically). And it’s been said that “gay culture often revolves around alcohol and drugs”, even with higher rates of criminal behavior. Gay men also suffer an elevated incidence of cancer (ref. 2) with 20 times the average risk of anal cancer. And those who engage in anal sex are at greater risk of haemorrhoids and some say (ref. 2) greater risk of anal leakage too. Their bios can be very sobering.
Gay and lesbian people themselves (ref. 2 ,ref 3), have pointed out differences between themselves and others, EG a tendency for older gay men to be more juvenile or perpetually adolescent than straight men, with a greater idealising of youth (ref. 2). If you think that there is absolutely no difference between gay and straight people, compare the content of a gay magazine from a straight one. Compare advertising aimed at gay people with advertising aimed at straight people.
There are some people who seem traditional, conservative and removed from nitty gritty of life, who you might assume would have little understanding or insight into the nature of homosexuality. For example, perhaps a homekeeper wife of a well off businessman living in a safe conservative suburb in the South. And then there are those on the opposite end of the spectrum, who are not averse to talking about porn or sexual topics that would make the former group blush. It’s these latter group of people who I would assume would have more of an insight into homosexuality and would realise how a classic homosexual lifestyle (IE inner city living, including a high degree of socialising with other homosexuals) differs from a classic heterosexual lifestyles. Which of the two groups do you think Howard Stern would belong to? I would think the latter group. Big time.
I dont listen to him often, but I listened to him for an hour today, talking largely about homosexuality. And I was intrigued to find that even he feels that homosexuality mirrors heterosexuality. Even him. Why is this? Every now and again you can find a gay person express (EG2) how they believe that gay people differ from straight people. Some GLBTs express frustration about elements of the GLBT community that they perceive to be pushing a false image of what it means to be GLBT. Academic and author of gay literature, Dennis Altman, has reflected (FODI marketing, 2013) on gay marriage by stating “If the mobilising issue for the gay community is the right to emulate the traditional family with marriage and children, homosexual identity has been sacrificed for social acceptance.”
I think the notion that gay people are just a mirror image of straight people, is based in assumption. People know what straight marriages are like, so they just assume that gay marriages would be the same. They dont factor in for example, that it’s been found that gay people in non-monogamous relationships are still equally satisfied with their relationships. Or is the public in denial? Interestingly, Joseph Sciambra, the man behind the viral youtube clip about deaths of gay porn actors (250,000 views), has said even in 2015, many are in denial about their gay friends and relatives having died from AIDS. Why will people not face reality?
I guess a key cause of all this misunderstanding is the “sacred cow” censorship of anything critical of homosexuality these days (EG).
When presented with the differences between average heteros and average homos, those who believe the two groups are otherwise the same, will sometimes express confusion or surprise. Other times they will offer various excuses, but most often will attribute discrimination as the cause of the differences. They claim that once society no longer discriminates based on sexuality, there will be no statistical differences between homosexuals and heterosexuals. Do they realise the flawed and weak basis they have for this claim, which is disputed by those who have seriously studied it (EG Mayer and McHugh)? Do they realize that even GLB people have rejected this argument?